How to Do Decision Triangle Solutions®
The 5-Step Process
The point is to get to know each other, not just to like each other
STEP 1: Get Selfish (In A Healthy Way)
Identify topics that cause conflict in your relationship.
STEP 2: What-When-Where-Who-How
Choose what will be discussed, when, where, and who will be the “questioner” and who will be the “revealer.” Agree on parameters for safety (see “Rules of Engagement”)
STEP 3: Questioner-Revealer Part 1
The “questioner” guides the dialogue and reflects what the “revealer” is saying.
STEP 4: Questioner-Revealer Part 2
Reverse roles: the “questioner” is now the “revealer.”
STEP 5: What Now?
Agree on small, achievable changes and be open to further adjustments over time.
This outline is not designed to be done on your own; please contact me if you have more questions about the techniques using in the Decision Triangle Solutions® method.
Rules for Engagement
Using Decision Triangle Solutions® requires mutual respect, openness, and emotional safety. To create a space where real understanding and progress can take place, follow these basic rules:
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Everyone has a right to their perspective.
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No one is allowed to belittle the other person or use what is said against them.
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If someone needs to stop the discussion, they are allowed to do so.
These foundational rules help ensure that Decision Triangle Solutions® leads to genuine connection and understanding. More detailed guidelines will be provided when you begin treatment.
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