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How to Do Decision Triangle Solutions®

The 5-Step Process

The point is to get to know each other, not just to like each other

STEP 1: Get Selfish (In A Healthy Way)

 

Identify topics that cause conflict in your relationship.

STEP 2: What-When-Where-Who-How

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Choose what will be discussed, when, where, and who will be the “questioner” and who will be the “revealer.” Agree on parameters for safety (see “Rules of Engagement”) 

STEP 3: Questioner-Revealer Part 1 

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The “questioner” guides the dialogue and reflects what the “revealer” is saying.

STEP 4: Questioner-Revealer Part 2

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Reverse roles: the “questioner” is now the “revealer.” 

STEP 5: What Now?

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Agree on small, achievable changes and be open to further adjustments over time. 

This outline is not designed to be done on your own; please contact me if you have more questions about the techniques using in the Decision Triangle Solutions® method.

Rules for Engagement

Using Decision Triangle Solutions® requires mutual respect, openness, and emotional safety. To create a space where real understanding and progress can take place, follow these basic rules:
 

  1. Everyone has a right to their perspective. 

  2. No one is allowed to belittle the other person or use what is said against them. 

  3. If someone needs to stop the discussion, they are allowed to do so.

 
These foundational rules help ensure that Decision Triangle Solutions® leads to genuine connection and understanding. More detailed guidelines will be provided when you begin treatment.

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Taking the first step toward healthier relationships is empowering. Whether you’re here to improve communication with a partner, resolve family conflicts, or align with a colleague, Decision Triangle Solutions® can guide you to lasting change.

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